September
29, 2025
 
I’ve read a few
letters to various advice columnists stating that the writer’s friend or relative
was getting married, but that the guests would have to pay to come. The climax
was a letter to Heloise, in which the grandmother was offered a “reduced” rate
of $200 instead of the $350 for couples/$275 for singles that other guests were
being charged. The grandmother is not going.
 
Heloise asked, “Well
readers, what do you think? Would you pay to go to the wedding?”
 
Setting aside
my curiosity about the family dynamics, I immediately wrote to Heloise and
said,
 
If anyone—relative
or friend—wanted to charge me for the “privilege” of attending their wedding,
my answer would be quite frank:
 
“I don't like
you that much.”