December 1, 2015
Someone told me yesterday that she had a former friend who responded to invitations with, “I can’t, but maybe another time.” She’d ask again, but nothing ever came of it. Finally she got the picture.
She said she wished the person had just left it at “No,” and not tacked on the “maybe another time,” part.
I agree. It’s mean to lead people up the garden path. You may think you’re being nice, but if you sound sincere when you say, “Maybe another time,” someone will believe you. (I used to, myself. Eventually I caught on, but it took a while.)***
So don’t say “Maybe another time,” if you don’t mean it. Just Say No.
***The nice thing about this story was finding out that I'm not the only one who can't take hints. It made me feel somewhat less silly.